In six months I will no longer be an AO wife.
Due to emotional issues. PTSD, depression, etc. I’ve come to a decision.
Didn’t help I was frightened with a knife.
I am separated from my husband. After a new separation agreement is signed, because our old one is void. We will have to wait an additional six months before we can divorce.
Thank you state of Virginia.
So this blog is being deleted.
Thanks for following along.
It seems like a distant dream since the last time AO had leave. But oh the dream was great.
He had so much time off. Well of course he would he had ‘use or lose’ days and then transfer leave.
When AO reported to his command it was right before Christmas. So we enjoyed spending Hanukah together. When last year he was underway for part of it. But his family has a tradition. Christmas at the grandparents.
This year we were unable to go. AO didn’t get leave. He had Christmas off and a certain amount of days off. So don’t get me wrong, he had time off. But here is the problem. He couldn’t go 300 miles away… Guess where the grandparents live? Just outside that 300 miles.
Leave is a nice thing. Leave means you can go see family.
I was a bit upset that he didn’t get first or second palm period (the time off for Christmas/New Years). He had the ability to take the time off, meaning he had leave days.
His family has been asking when we can visit. My in-laws have been asking when they can come visit. My family wants us to come visit. It’s a tug of war type of thing.
AO is just now able to put in for leave. Oh yes that is the hard part about being new to a command you have to do x, y, and z before you can take leave.
So we are crossing our fingers that the leave gets approved.
We will tell the in-laws to come down. They do want to see our new place.
We would love to go see the grandparents and go see my family. But for now it’s people coming to us. And in the summer we will go to them.
Ugh!! Please cross fingers leave gets approved
‘It’s only three years’ is something I have been repeating in my head.
I think back to the time I first move to the area and some sailor hit on me. And I said I wasn’t interested in dating a sailor. And he said “don’t worry I’m on shore duty”.
Wait, doesn’t that mean shore duty is easy?? Then why do I keep saying ‘it’s only three more years’?
AO came home last night. I impatiently patiently waited for him and nearing midnight he finally came home. “I love yooooou stink!!”
AO had taken a bath in JP5. For those of you who don’t know what JP5 is it is jet fuel.
He didn’t meant to take a bath in JP5. Actually last night several people got this same bath. Sometimes doing his job a jet dumps fuel on him/them. It is on accident but it happens.
Guess what brings on a nasty migraine for me??? Bingo JP5.
AO walked over and took a bath.
He still stunk.
I actually thought ‘I miss the ship smell’ (which can be pretty bad).
He sprayed on his cologne.
“Just go to the couch!!!”
And AO pouted his way to the couch. He slept there for a while. Then took another shower and returned to bed sometime later.
I enjoy the days he doesn’t come home smelling of JP5. ENJOY!!!
But majority days he smells of JP5. I’ve seriously asked Febreze if they could make something that could get the smell of JP5 out because YES Febreze doesn’t work!! I’ve tried!!!
I’ve learned to launder his uniform and get the smell of JP5 out. I’m talented. AO can’t do this as today I’ve washed his uniform twice!!
So once again I remember the time the sailor told me not to worry he was on shore duty. As if that made it any better. Umm no!!
Three more years!!!
And I can go back complaining of the smell of the ship rather than the migraine causing JP5.
AO has switched to mids which I talked about in the previous post.
It also means that not necessarily will he be able to dash off and get something to eat. Or say a truck rolls by with food on it.
So I started packing his lunch. But really it’s his dinner.
I have become very good at packing AO’s lunch 
I try to keep it simple and place all in one container. This helps. If I add a drink I place inside a bag.
I’ve made him tea lately but gave him a break today he can get a drink at work.
I enjoy doing this for him. And yes include extras like the kisses you see.
Anything for your man, right?
I became spoiled back in September/October. AO had so much leave. With some on the books he needed to burn and then transfer leave.
I enjoyed having him around.
Then he went to C School. And man little did I know how many parts to C School there were. He’d come home with a certificate of passing a section every few weeks.
And then he reported to his new command and Shore Duty officially began.
I was surprised at how quickly he was put to work. There were changes here and changes there. It seemed every time he came home something happened.
I’m working these days. No wait these. Wait these hours.
I’m getting off work early this day. Then a call nope working late. I have this day off became a ‘just kidding’.
Roll of the eyes. I didn’t like playing this game.
And finally now he’s on mids.
I get to enjoy my husband in the mornings. Oh he offered to cook me breakfast (cereal lol). And then made him lunch. Packed a ‘dinner’ for him. And kissed him goodbye during lunch hours.
Off to work.
Of course his first day on mids when normally he’d be home. A bee got into the apartment.
I’m allergic. Like Epi-Pen allergic. So I freaked. No husband to come save me. Opened the door begging the bee to go. Nope.
Vacuum. Yes I vacuumed up the bee and threw the vacuum in a closet and please bee stay in there/hope you died during the process.
AO had ‘cleaned’ the floors when he left (in the kitchen) and I recleaned them as he missed spots. But it’s nice to have his help.
And I was around this morning to say ‘put up your dishes’ when normally I’d be asleep and find them out and about when I woke up.
So it’s nice. Just not nice when something like a bee happens and I’m left in a WTH stage do I do.
The pup and I have enjoyed our time together. I’m getting things ready for family. Putting together our apartment and making it a home.
Slowly things are settling in.
We are finished moving in and settled in.
I am slowly adjusting to AO’s new schedule. Being on shore duty is completely different than sea duty. Adjusting is required.
Just when I think I’m used it it. It changed again.
Hopefully soon a routine settles in.
Unknown future right now due to AO’s eye sight. If he will be flight line certified or not.
So in the next month lots of questions get answered. Let’s hope this month passes by soon.
Happy Holidays from our home to yours.
Being a military spouse can be difficult this time of year with your spouse being deployed. Especially if you have little ones that may not understand that one of their parents are gone. So with those with loved ones serving far away from home a huge thank you for your service from our home to yours is extended.
To those who period, whether serving in the military OR not, who are away from their family this year. It is tough and here in our household we understand that. Happy Holidays and we hope you see your family soon.
AO and I will be spending Christmas separate tomorrow. I am taking a friend to see her husband who is on a ship so she can spend some time with him. So I will be leaving AO for a bit. But will return and we are having dinner.
AO and I do not celebrate Christmas. We are Jewish and celebrate Hanukkah. We do celebrate Christmas when we are with our families that do celebrate Christmas. But last year we had a real Christmas tree I decorated in a Jewish theme of blue and white. I found out I am allergic to them. So no real trees for us. But I lack the holiday spirit to put up a tree with us moving.
Next year I hope we can be with our families. Whether my side or AO’s family that we can spend the holiday season with them. But not knowing in advance one can never tell.
I am happy that this holiday season AO and I could spend time with each other. That this year we got to spend all of Hanukkah with each other. He enjoyed the latkes, kugel, and brisket that I made. I did try again this year at remembering my donut recipe but I can tell you I am awesome at making funnel cake. So again next year will try and remember my donut recipe that I lost when I moved to the area (other wise AO is fine with funnel cake lol).
I wish I could be with my family this year. I miss them and love them so much. But I will see them hopefully soon. And will be sending gifts a tad late. Due to the hectic post office I have avoided it lately. So am waiting for January to send them. Don’t worry I haven’t forgotten.
I do hope you are having a very Merry Christmas.
